Every woman will agree that wearing her boyfriend’s hoodie over her own is more comfortable – not only because it smells of him but also due to the physical proximity. Now, science supports this trend – researchers have discovered that simply being close to someone you love can reduce stress levels significantly!
1. Don’t be afraid to ask
Take your time when returning your ex-partner’s shirt if he still harbors a strong emotional attachment to it, but with patience and calm discussions about the situation, he may eventually realize there’s no longer any reason for him to hang onto your clothing.
Sometimes, all it takes is a few sweet texts to convince him to give back your shirt. Tell him you love his hoodie and want to wear it more often while promising to treat it carefully so as not to cause any dirtiness or wear and tear. Additionally, set a specific date when he should return it so he won’t forget or find an excuse not to comply.
Make him feel good by telling him that wearing his clothing is a manly gesture and signifies the beginning of a relationship. Men love showing off their swagger, so your boyfriend might let you keep his hoodie if it makes him feel like he is doing something worthwhile.
If he continues to refuse your request for his shirt back, don’t be intimidated into asking again months or even years later. Try doing something fun or humorous so he won’t attach himself emotionally to it and is more willing to return it – this will demonstrate that your intentions are genuine and not meant to manipulate him into giving it back to you.
3. Don’t be embarrassed
At some point, everyone feels embarrassed, but it can be harmful to allow these negative emotions to take control. Instead of dwelling on an embarrassing incident over and over in your mind, try shifting focus onto something positive; perhaps instead of replaying what went wrong repeatedly in your head, think about what lessons were learned instead. If panic sets in due to embarrassment, practice breathing exercises or mindfulness to restore calm to your body and restore its equilibrium.
If the embarrassment persists, consider discussing it with someone trusted. Sometimes, just having someone listen and help us see that an embarrassing situation wasn’t as big a deal after all. Talking it over gives us an opportunity to laugh about it together as well as gain advice for avoiding similar scenarios in the future. Emotional intimacy is vital in healthy relationships, and sharing emotions such as embarrassment can strengthen bonds among loved ones as well as provide a significant learning experience for children.